"IF YOUR PARTNER EARNS MORE THAN YOU, STEP YOUR GAME UP"

Demetrizia
Jan 19, 2018
6 min read

Episode 21| Korean Chicken and Pasta Bake The Podcast- the roundup

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An Introduction...

Korean Chicken and Pasta Bake the Podcast came to life in September 2017. It began with the intention to provide an open forum for the "mandem" to sit down and chat about the "struggle". Brought to life by one of my favourite people, Jordan bought his mic, some Archers, called up his boys to sit in with him and the rest is history.

For my Filipinos who aren't aware- the word mandem- derived from the Latin, "Mandemulus" meaning a collection of less than reputable people. Otherwise known as, "homies."

Thanks to Urban Dictionary for that. Back to the point at hand, the podcast has since seen the likes of Jordan's friends and family and has proved to be a great networking tool and platform for Birmingham's creatives to share their stories, their craft and what's to come. Four months and 18 episodes later, after corrupting the sound waves of SoundCloud and iTunes, the podcast launched its official visual platform via the KC&PB Podcast YouTube channel.

My Involvement

Let me tell you now, I wanted nothing to do with the podcast! Especially after Vlogglebox and the amount of domestics we went through. My first thought was, okay, let this be his thing.

Side note: When Jordan got scouted for Vlogglebox, he called me excited. I got the play by play on how he was approached and what was to come. There I was thinking, the reason why he's called me is because he wants me to do it with him because naturally, we have good chemistry, especially in conversation. No, no. He was going to do it with his friend as he felt the dynamic of a "black man from Brum and a funny ginger white guy" would be sick on tele. I thought, you know what- fair play. Come audition day -"I'm gonna need you to do the audition with me because he's flopped."

Funnily enough, my involvement in the podcast came about a similar way. The guy loves to use me as his understudy. I can't quite remember if one of his guests for that week backed out or he didn't have anyone to do it with but hey ho, you love 'em.

Eventually, I got the title of co-host and here we are making regular appearances!

Episode 21

#KCandPB recently reached it's 20th anniversary episode and had the originals (Alonso and Natty) from episode 1 come back to say their piece. The episode ended up being charged with testosterone hence, why it was titled "Meminism."

Sure enough, being the good co-host I was, I made sure to note down every single point because I was always going to demand a response episode!

We were lucky enough to be joined by the beautiful Miss Keisha Campion who did not hold back on giving her take on some of the misogynistic points made by the boys the previous week. I'm going to talk on the topics that resonated with me most. So let's begin the round up...

1.) Validation through Instagram

Since this paragraph is about Instagram, I am going to post some pics that deserved to be on the gram but never made the cut! Some behind the scenes goodness! PS. if you don't already make sure you follow @keishacamps_ . This girl is doing big things, you will get the low down on what products she uses and draw some inspiration from looks that never boast to be doing the most- just enhancing the natural beauty!
Anyways- validation through the gram- this is an epidemic. I do think that BOTH (and I cannot stress this enough)- BOTH, men and women put heavy emphasis on how they are received on Instagram. Often, you see women leaving little to the imagination and you see men doing "the most." People borrowing too much credit to appease a lifestyle for the sake of their feed.

Another layer to this is the debate on whether your partner should post pictures of you on the gram. Am I going to lie and say that I never used to pry over when Jordan's next appreciation post of me was going up? Nope. I lived for that shit!!! I swear, in my own twisted head I would make mountains out of molehills when an occasion came up and the only picture I saw of myself came from my own account. I'd question his quote on quote "love" for me. Are you even proud that I'm your girlfriend? The lot! In hindsight, what a young mindset to have. You see, when you lay your life out on social media, it can have detrimental effects on your relationship. It doesn't matter whether you have a huge following or not, you can have as little as 10 followers on your page, but if you start to share things you hold sacred on a social media platform, the value of that platform goes up! You don't ever want to be in a position where you are holding its value sacred.
A brilliant point that Keisha made was her mention of the "trash women" who will leech on to your man as soon as they see a man in the right path. I'm all for the togetherness of women, but sad to say, this is what makes our unit fickle. We latch on the idea that this "good guy" treats his girl so well that we become almost deluded that he can do the same for us. Ladies, we must stop this, this is a disease. Like Miss Campion said, "continue to scroll and keep it moving!"

2.) Breadwinners

Right, we live in this new age where men and women are equal right? Oftentimes, we interpret this idea as men and women being the same in all forms, but I cannot stress enough the difference between having equal opportunity and being the "same". Men and women are NOT the same. We are cut from completely different cloths and where men are superior to women in some respects, women are definitely far more superior to men in others.
On the podcast, we discussed the importance of men earning more than women and how men can't shake their egos when their woman is earning more than them. In hindsight I wish I would've mentioned the importance of ambition. A man or a woman can be broke, but there needs to be a display of hunger or desire for something greater than the self. To add to this, it's one thing to have ambition, but one must always remember to make their efforts match expectations. No rich man ever got rich or maintains wealth without the graft.
Yes, stereotypically women are labelled gold-diggers, housewives, but in a world where opportunity is attainable for almost anyone, we mustn't continue to allow this stereotype to exist.
To refine what I feel Keisha and I were trying to get at, it's fine to be with a man who's money is low/lower than yours, however, you must remove yourself from people who have no aspiration to become better versions of themselves.

3.) "Girl's hate when you tell them you're chilling with the mandem"

You want to know why? Because 95% of the time, you are up to no good. It's not even that we have a problem with you genuinely (emphasis on genuinely), chilling with your boys. To reiterate a point that the boys mentioned in Episode 20, "we as men, have to lie." That my friends, is the reason why us girls have trouble believing that your genuine intention is to just "chill".
That's not to say the intention to chill wasn't genuine in the first place, but men have a way of putting themselves in dangerous situations as it is in a man's nature to feel invincible, this feeling can allow people to feel like anything is possible (and I don't mean that in the positive sense either). They then come back to your bed at the end of the day to, I quote, "downplay" what really happened to keep their girl happy. And NO! it's not because we're upset when you are genuinely happy as people only downplay or lie when they feel insecure about what actually happened.
Honesty is the best policy. If we were confident that all men put this into good practice, perhaps we would feel a lot better about you hanging out with the boys.
That's my truth on it.

Outtakes

I want to finish off by encouraging you to listen to the episode and give your thoughts. Make sure you subscribe to the channel, subscribe on your podcast app on iTunes and follow us on SoundCloud. The debate continues.

You know I wasn't just going to leave it without some behind the scenes snaps... Until next time!